Edward “Ed” Harlan Stalder

Edward “Ed” Harlan Stalder

December 1, 1954 – October 21, 2023

Edward “Ed” Harlan Stalder was born December 1, 1954 in Fort Meade, Maryland, to his loving parents, Harlan Ray Stalder & Cynthia Catherine Stalder.

Ed’s father, Harlan, was a Sergeant First Class E-7 in the U.S. Army and in 1955, they moved over to Kaiserslautern Germany Landstuhl Air Base, where his sister Cindy was born in 1957. His father Harlan eventually retired in 1969 and moved his family back to Smithville, Missouri. Ed’s father, Harlan, passed away at the very young age of 39.

Ed was a very stubborn and feisty young man and his mom, Cynthia, sent him to Wentworth Military Academy in Lexington, Missouri in 1970. Cynthia Catherine remarried in 1971 to Donald “Pulley” West Pulliam and his brother Justin “Ryan” Pulliam was born in 1974.

Ed met his future wife, Ellen Elizabeth Sellars when he moved back home to attend North Platte High School in Dearborn, Missouri. Ed and Ellen got married their senior of high school, on Ed’s birthday, December 1st, 1972. Shortly thereafter they had their first son, Daniel Ray Stalder on July 5th, 1973.

Ed joined the Chicago Northwestern Railroad on June 1, 1973, as a conductor/ brakeman in Kansas City, Missouri. He was soon promoted to yardmaster, making him the youngest yard master in the country during that time.

Their second son, Zachary Todd Stalder, was born in Smithville, Missouri on October 21, 1978. During this time, Ed was also a volunteer member of the Edgerton Fire Department from 1978-1981.

Ed and Ellen had their only daughter, Megan LeeAnn (Stalder) Tollefson on June 10, 1983, in Smithville, MO. Shortly thereafter, the Kansas City Railroad yard shut down, and Ed relocated his whole family to Omaha, NE.

Chicago Northwestern was acquired by the Union Pacific Railroad in 1995. Ed served various roles, always prioritizing his role and schedule, to accommodate his family. He never missed a single practice or game of his 3 kids, whether it was wrestling, football, baseball, softball, or track.  He retired from his epic 43-year tenure with the railroad to do what he always wanted to do, which was to be a grandpa to his grandbabies.

Ed Stalder was a loyal, faithful, and proud grandpa “Papa”. His devotion to his 7 grandchildren went unmatched. He poured his knowledge and experiences into: Tucker Niles (15), Cade Harlan (12), David Samuel (9) [Megan and David Tollefson’s sons], Emerson Elizabeth (7) [ Zach and Tiffany Stalder’s daughter], and Jordyn (22), Morgan (15) and Meagan (11) [Dan and Sasha Stalder’s daughters].

Even after being diagnosed with stage 4 Esophageal Cancer, he continued to fight valiantly to spend as much time with his family as possible. Ed invested his time and energy in his grandbabies’ activities, including school functions and sporting events. Time spent at Grandpa’s house meant eating junk food, sneaking Mountain Dew and Kit Kats, using tools, gardening, sanding, swimming in the pool, and starting a lot of bonfires. There were no rules at grandpa’s house. He always preached that, “What happened at Grandpa’s, stayed at Grandpa’s!”

Beyond his time spent with his grandbabies, Ed was a die-hard Raiders fan (along with any other team his son-in-law played for in the NFL) Whether it was attending the 2011 Super Bowl game, or numerous wrestling meets, he was a sports enthusiast and kids/grandkids biggest supporter.  He was always in the middle of a never-ending project or idea he found scrolling on Pinterest. He was a true believer in Big Foot. Ed loved to “EXCESSIVELY” tinker in the garage on his Harley Davidson Road King. He also poured his talents into woodworking and building furniture for family and friends. Ed’s backyard was his own Oasis constantly under construction. With the best of intentions, Ed’s projects often extended to other people’s properties and shrubbery, not always with their permission, but would be offended if they were not appreciative.

Whether Ed was your husband, dad, brother, uncle, grandpa, friend, or foe, those who knew Ed, know that he loved hard and fought hard for those he loved!

Preceded in death by his father, Harlan Ray Stalder; mother, Cynthia Catherine; father-in-law, John Daniel Sellars Jr.; mother-in-law, Laura Elizabeth Sellars. He is survived by his wife of 51 years, Ellen (Sellars) Stalder; children: Daniel Ray Stalder (Sasha) Weston, MO; Zachary Todd Stalder (Tiffany) LaVista, NE; Megan LeeAnn Tollefson (David) Elkhorn, NE; sister, Cynthia Charlene Stalder, Lawson, MO; brother, Justin Ryan Pulliam (Julie) Lawson, MO; grandchildren: Tucker Niles Tollefson, Cade Harlan Tollefson, David Samuel Tollefson, Emerson Elizabeth Stalder, Jordyn Payge Goetz, Morgan Elizabeth Ball, Meagan Marjorie Ball; many nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and loving friends.

Family will receive friends Thursday, October 26th from 5:00PM – 7:00PM at West Center Chapel with a 7:00PM Service.

Following the Memorial Service a Celebration of Life will be held at the Joe’s Duck Inn Bar, 13336 Millard Ave., Omaha, NE 68137.

Graveside Services: Friday, October 27, 2023, 4:00 P.M.- 4:30 P.M. at Judy’s Cemetery in Wallace, MO

Following the Graveside Services a Celebration of Life will be held from 4:30 P.M. – 12:00 A.M. at the Dearborn Community Center, 205 North Commercial, Dearborn, MO 64439

** Food will be provided*

In lieu of flowers, memorials are suggested to support the Big Red Wrestling Club.












  • don foust Posted October 24, 2023 10:18 am

    Ed was great to work with.

  • Tanya Posted October 24, 2023 11:29 am

    I’m so sorry to hear of Ed’s passing. I remember hanging out at Ed and Ellen’s in Edgerton, us cousins running around having fun while our parents were busy playing cards. Ed would take us out on the dirt roads in his cool truck and the fun we had! Love you all.

  • Larrie Todd Posted October 24, 2023 3:32 pm

    So sad to read this. My thoughts and prayers an Hugs to you all.

  • Rosemary (Romy) Riddle Posted October 24, 2023 4:38 pm

    Words cannot say the great loss our families feel with your early departure. You were a great kid to grow up with, a little feisty, a little mouthy but with a great heart. How could you not be with the great parents you had? Barbeques, waterskiing, and homemade ice cream. Great memories.

  • Henry. Volquartsen Posted October 26, 2023 2:34 pm

    Ed was always good to work with . Very conscientious. Very safety minded.

  • Daryl Achenbach Posted October 26, 2023 5:33 pm

    As Don said. Ed was a great guy to work with. RIP

  • Shirley Dahms Posted October 26, 2023 6:08 pm

    So very sorry to hear of Ed’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. 🙏🙏🙏

  • Curtis A. Wyckoff Posted November 4, 2023 3:20 pm

    I, too, as do many at our age, know and have experienced loss of friends, family and acquaintances. Love and loss. Keep on keepin’ on.
    My thoughts and prayers are with and for, you and yours.
    Blessings still abound.

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